Creating Sexual Tension: The Key to Successful Seduction
When it comes to seducing a woman, there is only one thing that you need to do – and that is to create sexual tension between the two of you. Sexual tension is the energy that springs from your mutual attraction. It is a form of energy that you will feel only subtly, but you should never underestimate the impact that it can create with regards to your attempts at seduction.
Romance and sex gurus have different theories on how you can harness the power of sexual tension in your interaction with a woman you are trying to seduce. Some gurus advocate aggressive flirting, the exchange of explicit innuendos, playing hard to get, and whatever complex mind games that men play just to get the woman they desire in their beds.
While some seduction techniques taught by these gurus are more effective than others, they will definitely help you in improving your chances of attracting and picking up the woman that you desire. There is, however, that one technique that will never fail to get you the girl, and that is by generating in her a state of controlled arousal. Why is this effective? It is because a state of controlled arousal is built on a true desire to have sex with a woman. When you project this desire upon her, she feels it and the tension makes her want you too.
One thing that you need to understand when you create sexual tension by building a state of controlled arousal is that your advances here are subtle, never overt. This is all supposed to be a game that will keep her guessing and thus focused on you. Remember that you are projecting your desire for her. She feels it and it puts sexual thoughts in her head, making her want you as well. Everything else follows from here.
How the Controlled Arousal State Works
There are two important factors behind the way the controlled arousal state works. First, you need to understand that women are sexual creatures, just as much as men are. Women love to be pleasured, and they love men who can give them as much pleasure as they can take.
Second, there is such a thing called mood-transfer between people. You are familiar with the saying, "When you smile, the world smiles back at you"? When someone around you is in a really happy mood, you cannot help but feel happy too because their cheerfulness is very infectious. The same happens when you stay in the same room with a grumpy and moody person. If you happen to be in a good mood yourself, your mood gets dampened by this person's grumpiness.
Or let us say that you spent a day with your girlfriend, and you were not doing anything sexually related. You suddenly realized that she was horny and wanted to have sex, but she was not communicating anything verbally to you. You just felt that she was because of the subtle ways she behaved around you.
This is how the controlled arousal state works. You communicate your desire through subtle body language without really saying anything or doing anything overt to seduce a woman into having sex with you. When you are sexually aroused, you behave in ways that communicate your arousal to the other person without really doing anything consciously. The tone of your voice can change, the eye contact becomes deeper and more lingering, and so on.
How to Create a Controlled State of Arousal
It is easy for the body to become aroused; controlling it, however, is another matter. You need to prepare yourself both mentally and physically in order to be able to control your arousal and transfer that state to the woman you are seducing.
How do you do this? First, you need to learn to relax and be more centered. This will take the edge off your nervousness or discomfort, which is natural when you are still gaining experience in the art of seduction. Learn to be calm, confident and at peace with yourself. This may seem hard to do, but all that can be solved through continuous practice. So, go ahead and get the experience that you need in seducing women by actually going out and meeting women, as well as talking to them.
It will also help you become calmer and more centered if you avoid things that can disrupt your calm and make you feel more nervous than you should be. This includes using harmful substances like drugs and alcohol, watching too much trash on television, and surfing for porn on the Internet.
Second, you need to take care of your. A healthy male body is a body that can get sexually aroused easily. Women are attracted to men who take good care of themselves. Thus, you need to raise your testosterone levels as high as you can. You can do this with regular exercise, particularly weight training. Maintaining a proper diet that is rich in animal protein as well as taking zinc supplements will also help a lot. In addition, you should also have safe sex regularly.
Creating Sexual Tension with a Controlled Arousal State
When the time is right and you know that your body and mind are both ready for it, you can start creating sexual tension between you and the woman you desire with the use of the controlled arousal state. It all starts with you.
If you want a woman and you intend to get her in your bed, you need to get your body and mind worked up so you feel that sexual energy feeding you. You can do this by thinking fun thoughts like imagining the way she would look without her clothes on and the way she would feel when you make love to her. What the mind thinks, the body will soon follow.
Once you have gotten yourself into that state of arousal, you need to attract her attention and keep it focused on you. The best way to do this is to be as intriguing and mysterious to her as you can possibly manage. Never tell her that you desire her. Instead, play hard to get and keep her guessing whether you want her or not. Letting her know at the onset that you want to have sex with her will only backfire on you. It will validate her and feed her vanity, of course, but she will also think that you are not challenging enough for her and will look for a partner elsewhere instead. After all, a mystery solved is no longer a mystery and it will no longer hold any excitement for her.
Also, before you make more overt moves towards her, it should be clear to you that you have transferred your state of arousal to her as well. It is essential that the desire is mutual and that she must verbally convey her willingness to fulfill that desire and be alone with you. If she shows any sign of discomfort at the thought of being alone in a room with you, then the timing is not right and you still need to work on seducing her.
The art of seduction takes practice and experience. However, you should always bear in mind that it all starts with having a controlled state of arousal and transferring that state of arousal in her.
