Desire

Here were my signals: • I suggested a restaurant near my home, so that we could go back to my place afterwards. • I wore a much sluttier outfit than I’d worn on our previous dates. • After dinner I guided us in a walk towards my apartment, as if it was assumed we were going there. • When we got to my building I invited him up. And that was just what happened before we made it up to my apartment. As far as I’m concerned, guys, I practically threw myself at him. I was so frustrated by his cluelessness that I never went out with him again. I realize that that might have been an extreme reaction, but I was really mad at the time. In addition to the signals I mentioned above, here are a few additional clues a man should look for if he’s wondering if his date wants to have sex with him: • More physical contact than prior dates (is she suddenly touching your arm, hand, leg, shoulder more – even if it seems playful and platonic?) • Is she carrying a bigger bag (could mean an expected sleepover at your place)? • Does she seem happier/flirtier/perkier? Has she turned up the volume in some way? New relationships are great, and that first time you have sex with a new partner can be fabulous. Just pay a little bit of extra attention and you won’t be the sad, lonely guy sleeping alone because he didn’t notice his date throwing herself at him. Comments on this Article? Try out our new commenting feature below, or you can always choose to discuss this in the Midlife Forum ...