Desire

The trends and popular themes surrounding romance tend to change with time, but there are a few universal features that are timeless. Any man with lofty expectations should recognize and embrace such aspects, one of which is the art of flattery. There are fine lines to walk; timing is crucial, and, above all else, ingenuity and subtlety are essential for success. The challenge lies in making compliments appear both natural and genuine. It can’t be forced or fake, and it can’t be construed as sex bait. Perhaps it’s most important to acknowledge that all women appreciate compliments; any girl who says otherwise (“oh, only insecure women need flattery”) is lying. Still, too many men don’t really think about flattery. They merely accept it as a matter of course and throw out a contrived little compliment, falsely believing that the recipient is impressed. It can be difficult to make a woman blush with nothing more than words, but most ladies treasure verbal ability. Observe before complimenting Anybody can just wander up to a hot girl and say something idiotic like: “Damn, you’re hot!” And anyone can select a standard, generic compliment like: “Your smile is so amazing”; “I just love your eyes”; “Wow, pretty and smart!” That's not the art of flattery. If you want to make an impression, take a few moments to observe, and then form a compliment that is unique to her. It really isn’t that difficult. Maybe she’s wearing something original, and it’s clear that she took some time selecting the outfit. Maybe she really does have an interesting physical contrast -- blue eyes and red hair, for instance -- or perhaps she draws all eyes with her skilled dancing. Look, it doesn’t take long; within minutes of first speaking to her, you should have sufficient information for effective and original flattery. Don’t go overboard Due to the fact that most women are polite and aren’t willing to say, “OK, that’s enough,” the guy often doesn’t know when to stop. But there are times and places for certain comments, and if you string them together all at once, they lose a lot of impact and poignancy. In fact, compliments should be spontaneous; they should emerge from your mouth the instant they hit your mind. There is nothing more genuine than spontaneity, and planned compliments are nowhere near as well-received. If you think a lady can’t tell the difference, well, you’re in dire need of an education. The point is that women can actually suffocate under an ever-thickening layer of compliments, especially if they’re planned out too much. These are easily predictable and quickly dismissed. As with any other element of the flirting game, compliments require a deft touch. It’s about her, not you The common belief among cynical girls is that guys have an ulterior motive behind each and every compliment. It has gotten so bad that experienced ladies will never believe a word of flattery. And, let’s face it: the art of flattery and the delivery of the compliment often has a root cause and a final goal. This I freely volunteer. However, contrary to the beliefs of bitter, mistrustful women who refuse to believe your words are genuine, there are times when flattery is purely for her benefit. Now, you can work on these a little. You need to focus on something that is of importance to her; it shows you know something about her others can’t see, and it will be especially meaningful. So, if you know she prides herself on her natural beauty, you should notice just how beautiful she looks without any added cosmetics. Read more: http://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_advice_400/422_the-player-the-art-of-flattery.html#ixzz2EvR1eM4V