Desire

They say the majority of human communication is done in silence; the quirk of an eyebrow, a twitch of the lips, a finger on the cheek, and a raised eyebrow -- it all conveys messages that would require several verbal sentences. Therefore, no matter how smooth a talker you may be, no matter how many pickup lines you have in your repertoire, and no matter how skilled you may be at listening, it’s all for naught if you ignore body language. You must become a student. You must sit back and observe, subtly, of course -- and keep an eye on her hands, arms, shoulders, face, and even her feet. There is an inherent benefit to doing this: While it can be difficult to decipher words, especially when it comes to women, the body rarely lies. In other words, what she says and what she does can often be two very different things. Watch the eyes By far the most expressive part of the face, the eyes tell all. Learning to read her body language starts with the eyes. Skilled Players can learn all they need to know simply by reading the woman’s eyes. It can be challenging, but there are a few simple rules. If she continues to meet your eye throughout the course of the conversation, she certainly wants to hear more. On the other hand, if her eyes are darting all over the place, she’s either completely uninterested or she’s scanning the bar for a better companion (or both). Furthermore, you may notice that during times when you decide to compliment her, she ends up looking at her feet; this is a sign of appreciative embarrassment. Oh, and if she casts you an up-and-down sizing-up glance more than once, she not only likes what she hears, but she likes what she sees. Keep your distance It’s often best to keep your distance initially, thereby allowing you better access for viewing her entire body. The Player in you will see this as an obvious benefit -- you didn’t approach her for her personality -- but you kill two birds with one stone using this tactic. Firstly, in not getting too close and fawning all over her, you’re respecting her boundaries and remaining a perfect gentleman. Secondly, selecting an appropriate distance will allow you to check a few things: Is she shuffling her feet? That’s a sign of nervousness, and it’s a good sign. Is she tapping her fingers on her thigh? Bad sign. Learn how to read her body language, and just be sure to remember the “appropriate” part: Stay too far away, and you’re just a lunatic. Cue your body language If you want to know how to read her body language, then cue your body language. This is where you make a bold decision and move in, perhaps after seeing a glimmer of interest in her eyes. At this point, you move slowly and focus carefully on her reactions, which are crucial to the future proceedings. In other words, once you’ve decided to move closer, it’s not a time to turn over any number of great pickup lines in your head; it’s time to observe. In the preceding tip, you should’ve been able to establish a basis of operations for your flirting, which means you already know what to look for. Obviously, if she shies away from you, things are going to cool down fast. The response you seek is something more subtle; a quick hint of pink on her cheek, a slight turn to receive you better, the whisper of a smile at the corners of her lips, etc. Be receptive to positive and negative body language Rolling with the punches is essential at all times, and it goes well beyond any verbal curveballs she tosses your way. The instant you notice something significant in her bodily behavior, you should be prepared to tailor your advances to reflect her reactions. Now, simply because you picked up on a bit of negative feedback early on doesn’t mean you should always cut your losses. It could just mean you made a small mistake, but it’s something that can be remedied… provided you recognize the situation and adapt. So she didn’t like that joke; she didn’t run and hide, right? You’ve got another shot, but you need to try a different tact. If her body language is positive, I’d advise you to check tip No. 2. actions speak louder… Believe it or not, a woman typically gives you the go-ahead (or your dismissal papers) with body movement long before it’s ever put into words. Given this fact, being able to read her body language and react to it is paramount; it trumps just about everything else. The better you get, the more you’ll be able to distinguish between intentional and subconscious behavior (which will dispel more of the mystery). And one last thing: She’ll be reading your movements too. You’re usually the aggressor in an approach scenario, and she wants to get a peek inside the real you before things move forward. All in all, body language, from both your side and hers, can be the ultimate catalyst. AskMen's Free Weekly Newsletter Read more: http://www.askmen.com/dating/player_200/244b_love_games.html#ixzz2EvQGKLW1