Desire

The letter E in S-O-F-T-E-N represents eye contact. Perhaps the strongest of the nonverbal gestures are sent through the eyes. Direct eye contact indicates that you are listening to the woman, and that you want to know about her. Couple eye contact with a friendly smile, good body language and you'll send this unmistakable message: "I'd like to talk to you, and get to know you better." It is perfectly okay to have brief periods of eye contact while you observe other parts of the person's face - particularly the mouth. When the person smiles, be sure to smile back, but always make an effort to return your gaze to the person's eyes as she speaks. It's acceptable not to have eye contact at all times. Too much eye contact can be counterproductive, but not always. If you stare at a person, she may feel uncomfortable and even suspicious about your intentions. A fixed stare can appear as aggressive behavior or with the right body language say I want you as in love or sex. If it takes the form of a challenge as to who will look away first. It is not wise to employ eye contact as a "power struggle" because it will usually result in a negative, defensive response from the other person. If you have a problem maintaining comfortable eye contact, try these suggestions. Start with short periods of eye contact - maybe only a few seconds. Look into the pupils of her eyes, and smile. Then let your gaze travel over the features of her face, hair, nose, lips, and even earlobes! There is a six-inch diameter around the eyes that can provide a visual pathway. Remember, after a few moments, go back to looking right in her eyes. You can look back and forth between both eyes while increasing the amount of time that you experience direct eye contact as the conversation continues. Avoiding eye contact can make both parties feel anxious and uncomfortable, and can give the impression that you are uninterested, dishonest, or bored with the conversation and the company. The result will usually be a short and unfulfilling conversation. So be sure to look into her eyes as you talk, and send this message: "I hear what you're saying - go on!" There is a lot of sciences behind making the right kind of eye contact with a woman that will make her feel as if she is falling in love with you; to understand this method and the sciences