Desire

S - 0 - F- T- E- N S = Smile O = Open Arms F = Forward Lean E = Eye Contact N = Nod O = Open Arms The letter O in S-O-F-T-E-N stands for open arms. You've probably been welcomed with "open arms," which, of course means that a person was glad to see you. At a party or in another social or business situation, open arms suggests that you are friendly and available for contact. During a conversation, open arms makes others feel that you are receptive and listening. On the other hand, standing or sitting with your arms crossed makes you appear closed to contact, defensive, and closed-minded. Add a hand covering your mouth (and your smile) or your chin and you are practically in the classic "thinker's pose." Now just ask yourself this question: Are you going to interrupt a man who appears to be deep in thought? Probably not. In addition, crossing your arms tends to make you appear nervous, judgmental, or skeptical -all of which discourage women from approaching you or feeling comfortable while talking to you. Some men argue that just because they have their arms crossed, it doesn't mean that they are closed to conversation. They say, "I crossed my arms because I'm comfortable that way." They may be comfortable, but the problems is that while no one can read minds, they can read body language. Crossed arms say, "Stay away" and "My mind is made up." Open arms say, "I'm available for contact and willing to listen. Come on over and talk to me."