Desire

F = Forward Lean The letter F in S-O-F-T-E-N means Forward lean. Leaning forward slightly while a woman is talking to you indicates interest on your part, and shows you are listening to what the woman is saying. This is usually taken as a compliment by the woman, and will encourage her to continue talking. *Leaning back gives off signals of disinterest and even boredom. *Leaning forward says: "I'm interested in what you're saying." Often some men will lean back with their hands over their mouth, chin, or behind their head in the "relaxing" pose. Unfortunately, this posture gives off signals of judgment, skepticism, and boredom from the listener. Since most women do not feel comfortable when they think they are being judged, this leaning-back posture tends to inhibit the woman from continuing. It's far better to lean forward slightly in a casual and natural way. By doing this, you are saying: "I hear what you're saying, and I'm interested - keep talking." This usually lets the woman feel that what she is saying is interesting, and encouraging her to continue speaking. Take care not to violate someone's "personal space" by getting too close, too soon. Of course, if the situation calls for it, the closer the better. However, be sensitive to the other person's body language. Remember, there are cultural differences in what constitutes a comfortable distance between strangers engaged in conversation. Click Here to Learn More